Making a mistake is not bad, it happens to everyone. The misery comes from covering that mistake instead of acknowledging it. Admitting that you have made a mistake is not good and it costs everyone effort. Moreover, saying sorry often feels unjust because you have done everything right all day and have taken others into account and then you make one small mistake and should you apologize? That doesn’t really feel like a good balance. And by the way: You have been confronted with so many people that day who in your opinion may well apologize! But that doesn’t work that way. After all, you are the only one who has experienced your entire day. The other person only experiences the incident where you made the mistake.It takes a certain magnitude to know that an excuse does not make you smaller. So: take a sigh and apologize.
A good excuse looks like this:
1. Sorry;
2. It is my fault;
3. What can I do to get it right to make?
If you do it “Sorry” very emphatically and look the other person sincerely in the eye, that will suffice. Especially among friends and loved ones. In many other cases it is necessary to make the triple, because only “sorry” can come across as: “Okay, I say it to save the situation, but I really don’t mean it.” Such an excuse is for the others not valuable. So, if you do it, do it well and make the triple.
Apologizing does not always mean that you are wrong and the other good. It means that you put the relationship above your own ego. That you leave the battle for the same for what it is for the greater good: the relationship with someone you value.How many wonderful relationships in the world have failed because of the lack of a good apology. What a pity and what a waste of happiness. It is never too late for an apology. Even though it is years later.
The other person may not even remember it anymore. Even then the apology will be received positively. If the other person remembers the incident: the excuse will certainly do well.
Finally, there is another kind of apology: the silent forgiveness. Make a list of all the people who have supplied you with such a dirty area that you have really disliked them, maybe they hate them. Sit down in front of it. Remember what was done to you, how it touched you, what caused you trouble and then forgive the other person.
Do it. Forgive the other. You will see that it illuminates your own life.